When I landed in Chicago on October 23rd, there was a high of 40 degrees. So, there’s that.
That night I had a group meeting with local women. When hosting these
events. I never know who will be there. I hope for a big, diverse group of
folks to be there so that I get stories of varying…
Well, way to be disturbing, Logan Square.
"[Not to mention] the sexism of telling a woman to eat some dick as a means of shutting her up; the hypocrisy of trying to teach someone about being calm and polite by fucking with them repeatedly; the overall exhaustion with the cycle of viral stories, their attendant backlash, the articles summing up that backlash, etc."
Sean O’Neil, at the AV Club
Earlier this week at ask.metafilter, a woman wanted advice on how to call out a friend of a friend who “is going around telling a very blatant lie.” The woman was “very disturbed” by the blatant lie and really “really do[es]n’t enjoy humoring someone who is clearly lying”.
What is this terrible, disruptive, obvious deception the friend of a friend is attempting to perpetuate on the innocent world? Her dress size. You read that right. The anonymous woman at metafilter needs advice on how to confront an acquaintance who is blatantly lying about her dress size.
I did not offer any advice because all I wanted to say was “get over your fucking self” and ask.me requires us to limit our answers to useful comments, designed to help people find answers. But in this case, the only possible help the asker needs is a headcheck.
Perhaps the compulsive liar about her dress size is a terrible person. Perhaps she’s just sad or self-conscious. Most likely, she’s just accustomed to being ignored or hated because she’s not pretty or thin and trying—poorly—to compensate.
Anyway, I once had someone tell me “You’re much smaller with your clothes off.” So I’m not completely convinced dress size is such an obvious or blatant lie. I am completely convinced that calling out an acquaintance over it is not kind; it’s not necessary, and it does nothing to make the space better for your having passed through it.
"Arrow’s paper, which endorses the view that ‘the laissez-faire solution for medicine is intolerable,’ is widely considered to have founded the field of health care economics … Arrow’s paper argues that the delivery of health care deviates in fundamental ways from a normal free market, and, therefore, that government intervention is necessary to correct for these deviations."
More adventures in being a woman on a bike.
It snowed a little in the middle of the day, while I was at work. At the end of the day, I walked my bike across the street from my office and then stopped at the curb to adjust my scarf. A man walked past and said, very sternly as though he knew something very important of which I was unaware: “Be careful riding your bike; it’s slippery.”
I did not even try to be polite. “I’m well aware how to ride in winter.” hopped on and rode off.
I made it all the way to the alley behind my house without the slightest slip. In the alley, my tire went into the drainage groove that runs down the middle of the alley, and I skidded a little, but I stayed upright. Upright the whole damn way.
"As I’ve said before, I believe that cycle chic is about normalizing cycling to the point where riding whatever bike you have wearing the clothes in your closet is not a huge deal. It is not about establishing some de riguer mode of cycling. In fact, I think that the fashionable cyclist shaming is about reenforcing the technology and componentry fetishisation which supports jargon, tribalism, and consumption of expensive bikes and accessories. I don’t want to take anyone’s alleycat or century away from them."
Influenced by 16th Century Baroque opulence and Gothic design, Adam Wallacavage’sShiny Monsters show at the Philadelphia Art Alliance, is as sumptuous as it is unusual. His current solo exhibition is an installation project consisting of multiple gallery spaces that showcase his exquisite and bizarre chandeliers. Some of his recent works in the show featuring toys and Hello Kitty iconography are inspired by pop culture and Wallacavage’s love of vintage Americana.
(Source: hifructose.com, via arpazia)
"We cannot enter the struggle as objects in order later to become subjects.” Paulo Freire"
bell hooks quotes this, again, somewhere around 0:45 in this video (which is well worth the 90 minutes of your life).
I was fact-checking the quote and found this blog entry, which reminded me of what it was like to finally have a woman instructor in my philosophy department (seriously, I got through undergrad and the first part of a master’s and she was the only woman professor I had in the core discipline) and to finally learn and discuss these things.
And here is Freire’s essay, which I will read after work, while I miss talking and thinking and being that actively engaged in criticism.
"But don’t let that distract from what really happened in Virginia on Tuesday: an official who consistently used his elected office to promote policies that shamed, marginalized, and patronized women and other minorities was met with a “no."
"Large differences in speed and mass of different road users in the same space must be eliminated as much as possible. Road users can best be forced to travel at lower speeds by road design. This works better than with signs. If crashes occur at lower speed differences they cause a lot less damage to the most vulnerable road user. Where speed differences cannot be eliminated types of traffic must be separated. On roads with higher speeds road users traveling in opposite directions should be separated by a division as well, to further eliminate conflicts. Cycle paths and pedestrians are always separated from these through roads, following the principle of homogeneity of mass as well as speed. Because of this principle the Dutch will never implement a combined bus/cycle lane as is common in some other countries. Instead there sometimes even are bus lanes separated from other motorized traffic because the mass of cars and buses do not match either."
How to Fix America’s Bad Bicycling Infrastructure
Also the quote about being weary of being wary all the time really hit home, as my internal monologue in the summer cycling months (during which it is impossible to use the lafefront path safely or easily) is “I’m just trying to get from here to there without damage.”
But the thing that most sticks with me if how cavalier we are about death and injuries from auto traffic—not just drivers crashing cars into cars, but drivers hitting pedestrians or cyclists.