They Start Hitting Closer to Home Now
The Internet Continues to Offer Things Already Said So I Don’t Have to
When I was a teenager, I had a few friends who said my dad reminded them of Harrison Ford.
My mom mildly disagreed, saying she’d always thought of dad as more the James Garner type.
It’s a strange thing, having your friends think Sexy Actor reminds them of your dad. It’s less strange when your mom says Sexy Actor reminds of your dad, when you realize how like your mother you really are.
On the internet, someone said of Garner, as Rockford (I am of the age to remember Rockford Files as my parent’s favorite show): One other thing—to a young boy growing up in the ’70s, Garner’s Rockford character was “how to be a man.” Helping people, doing the right thing, being tough only when absolutely necessary.
QotD: It’s like women between thirty-five and sixty-five just don’t exist.
Carpentier doesn’t care if you like it. Neither does Buzzfeed writer Arianna Rebolini, who wrote this week about the video for John Legend’s song “You and I,” about the diverse beauty of women. Rebolini dutifully yay-thanks-ed the fact that it’s “uplifting to see these women—of all ages, sizes, ethnicities—in the spotlight” before confessing her discomfort with how the song’s lyrics fall into the well-worn pop tradition of celebrating the beauty of women who don’t know they’re beautiful. “These songs, which presume to assure women that they are attractive (and, by extension, worthwhile),” Rebolini writes, “assume that the singer’s relationship to our bodies overrules our relationship with them.”
Arianna Rebolini doesn’t care if you like it. “Don’t tell us we don’t know we’re beautiful,” she concludes. “And certainly don’t tell us that our ignorance to this fact is our best quality. We’re good.
—Rebecca Traister, I Don’t Care If You Like it
Why is no group doing this?
At Metafilter, in "Hollywood Magic: impossibly young mothers"
This is a thing that I’ve been really angry about lately. It seems like women have two options: play a lot younger (everyone between the ages of, say, 20 and 35 who’re still getting cast as teenagers) or playing a lot older (basically all the examples above).
It’s like women between thirty-five and sixty-five just don’t exist. We don’t bat an eye at male action leads who’re in their forties and fifties—they can kick ass and defeat the bad guys and get the girl and everything. But it’s really rare to see a woman in the same age bracket who’s even playing someone in that age bracket, let alone playing someone that age who’s also allowed to kick ass.
I saw a tweet the other day—this one, actually—that basically says ugh it’s awful that twenty years ago, we didn’t get a Wonder Woman movie starring Lucy Lawless. And I mean, I basically agree with that point, but I’m equally angry that we’re not getting Wonder Woman starring Lucy Lawless right the fuck now. Lawless is 46. Affleck’s Batman is 42; RDJ’s Iron Man is 49. Hugh Jackman is 45 and is doing XMen movies for at least the next three years. But it’s basically unthinkable that we could have Lawless as Wonder Woman, because she’s just so old, I guess.
posted by MeghanC at 2:06 AM on July 8 [59 favorites]
A friend posted this link on Facebook (“If single women vote, Democrats win. But in a midterm year, that’s a big If.”) with the comment that she would babysit or drive anyone to the polls or buy ice cream or whatever, if that would get the single women she knows out to the polls this November.
To which I said: I have done lots of work with the DNC and with non-partisan voting rights groups to get people (physically) to the polls and to make sure they are allowed to vote (legally) once they are there. Why is no organized group offering rides and child care for women so they can get out and vote this election?!?!
And I reiterate: WHY IS NO-ONE ORGANIZING THIS?
"We officially live in a country where corporations have more rights than women."
Seen this lots of places, but I like Bustle’s summation about why this is awesome:
It says that it doesn’t matter why, when, where, or how, if she says no, she means it and that’s the bottom line. The concept that young women might of their own free will say yes to sex actually strengthens the idea that they have the right to say no, too.
Because that is how you change rape culture.